Nice Girls Don't Get Rich

This chick says I like teaching because I'm a GIRL!!!

Dr. Lois P. Frankel, PhD, says that men learn to do right by themselves and that we ladies learn to take care of everybody else. I wanted to fight her in the face! I wanted to yell and scream that she is a liar! But then I realized just how right she really is.

My whole life I've been fighting the good fight - feminist, educated, mouthy, you get the idea. But then at the very same time, I was a people pleaser. It's only been within the last two years that I've learned not to be that way. It's difficult to break out of that mold but I so desperately want to break free.

She talks about how men are taught to become rich and women are taught to "do good." She was encouraged to become a teacher so she could be home with her children during summers. She didn't even HAVE kids! Grrr!

I am, unfortunately, in the same boat and super irritated that women are taught to be nice and to never be thought of as a "rich bitch." I'm sorry if my being a you-know-what offends anyone but I'm gonna be one and be proud of it! No more stress about hurting people's feelings if I don't become a teacher or if I don't specifically teach preschool the way my father wants me to do.

Becoming a teacher still sounds fun because even though I could have time off to be with children I don't have, more importantly, I would still have that time off to work on my business. If I do this, it's going to be for high school. The salary is better than what I make now and after a few years it will be enough to open that business completely out of my own money.

My boyfriend, whom I love more than anything on God's green earth, does not want me to be in any job that requires more education. I used to agree with him but in three pages of this book I yelled, "Helllll no!" at the very thought of doing what he said. A little more student loan debt will save me in the end. My school district gives back $5,000 because we are in a lower income area.

If my boyfriend gets a job with a decent salary, he's promised to marry me and be the bread winner in the family. I never asked for that promise but if it occurs then I will have the means to open my business. His philosophy goes back to what Dr. Frankel says about men being taught to be in charge. Women are always taught to be "taken care of." I've never been that woman.

I am going to plow through this book and get back to you on the results. I'm already so pissed that I'll likely stay up most of the night trying to finish it. She's going to help me get this bakery sooner rather than later.